Days with my father

  • My Mum died suddenly on September 4th, 2006

    After she died, I realized how much she’d been shielding me from my father’s mental state. He didn’t have alzheimers, but he had no short-term memory, and was often lost.

    I took him to the funeral, but when we got home, he’d keep asking me every 15 minutes where my mother was. I had to explain over and over again, that she had died.

    This was shocking news to him.

    Why had no-one told him?
    Why hadn’t I taken him to the funeral?
    Why hadn’t he visited her in the hospital?

    He had no memory of these events.

    After a while, I realized I couldn’t keep telling him that his wife had died. He didn’t remember, and it was killing both of us, to constantly re-live her death.

    I decided to tell him she’d gone to Paris, to take care of her brother, who was sick.

    ‘Days with my father’ is a journal.

    A record of our relationship, and the time we spent over the last three years.


    Published by Chronicle Books in 2010.

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